I pulled this question from a guest blogger on the Birth Mother Baskets website. Thought provoking wisdom from a woman who knows.
Q. What advice would you give to expectant parents who are considering placing their baby for adoption?
A. Research the crap out of your options! There are difficult stories out there of adoption going wrong, and there are amazing stories out there of adoption going beautifully well. Become familiar with them all. But also know that the final choice is yours how you want placement to go, or if you decide to parent. There is no easily wrapped up and convenient standard to what open adoption “is”. It is truly a case-by-case situation and what has worked for other’s maybe won’t work for you. I think it’s important to familiarize yourself with the good and the bad so that you know what questions you need to ask your prospective adoptive parents. They are hard and potentially uncomfortable conversations to have, especially as you are just getting to know each other, but the conversations are vitally important. And ultimately, if you decide to place, at the end of the day it is your decision to sign the dotted line; make sure that you are doing it for the right reasons because there will always be “what-ifs” in the future, and it’s important to remember that it was your decision. If you feel you are in a position where you are being forced one way or the other, then turn to someone you trust to advocate for you.
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