Questions answered by Birth Mothers touched by adoption

Here is another question posed to a birth mom who was interviewed on the Birth Mother Baskets web site

What would you say to help educate people on adoption?

A.  Adoption is such a hot-topic right now for the good and the bad, especially in the state of Utah.  I would challenge people who have strong feelings about what adoption is to do their research before they instigate a debate.  There is so much negativity and that’s unfortunate because adoption can be a blessing, and in my case adoption very much was a blessing.  I think there is a lot of ignorance out there and people ultimately want to defend their opinions.  Adoption is a topic that is sensitive and extremely personal and sacred.  It should only ever be approached with a desire to learn from the other person.  There is so much to learn and that’s the beautiful thing about all of it is that we can all learn from each other if we allow each other to have our own sacred experiences and realize that this is a topic where you shouldn’t try to convince another person of your standing.  If you are trying to convince someone that adoption is “good” or “bad” then you are missing the point.  There is a huge difference between advocating for something and trying to convince someone of the “goodness” or “badness” of your individual experience.